I paid for my own wedding (did I tell you my husband is Scottish?)

I paid for my own wedding.

It was a bash on the bonny banks of Loch Lomond in a five-star country house hotel with salmon and roast lamb for dinner, an 18-piece marching pipe band, several out-of-country guests and several more bottles of French wine.

It was truly the best day of my life.

I never expected my parents to pay for my wedding. You get to a certain age and it really isn’t appropriate. Besides, it was the height of the dot com boom and I was earning obscene amounts of money (in case you get the wrong picture, a paper bag could have gotten a high paying marketing job back then.)

I planned the event. The bills came to me. I paid them out of my checking account.

We never talked about who was going to pay for what. Ultimately, it didn’t matter; it all came from the same place, right?

But I should have seen a pattern emerging.

When we were engaged, my mother brought out my grandmother’s diamond ring she had purchased on a trip to Amsterdam in the 60s. She had been saving it for me, and said I could reset it to whatever I wanted.

When I saw it, I could clearly remember the white gold ring with the simple four diamond setting on my grandmother’s third finger. I decided it was perfect.

My fiancé could not believe his luck.

I recently pointed out to my husband that I paid for our wedding.

You know what he said?

"You knew I was Scottish when you married me."

Photo credit: giuliomariale

Comments

[Iota]

And was he worth it...?

[anna colette]

I feel your pain...little did we know when we dreamed of our wedding as young girls that we would have to fork out ourselves! We're splitting ours 50/50 and just having 1 witness each to keep costs low. One of my best friends has paid for half of my dress as a wedding present!

[debbie]

You may be very thankful for his "frugalness" one of these days. I say that because my Scottish roots run deep (and so do my abilities to squeeze money).

[Catrinathekitcat]

I don't think it's unfair to ask an adult couple to pay for their own wedding. If you're hosting a party then you should treat your guests like guests no matter if they're your parents or not. Now, emphasis on "COUPLE." I'm sorry you had to do it by yourself! Eric and I paid for our own wedding and did it all on the cheap (sure we got most of our things through http://www.gatheringguide.com/ec/party_favors_decorations.html and looked for the cheapest on the list,) but they were nice and they did the job. There's no shame in having a simple wedding, and lavish anniversaries once you save up a bit! That's what my mom and dad told me... (maybe they were Scottish, grin)

[Just a Plane Ride Away]

Ha! What a great story.

[Miss Behaving]

Great comment from your Dh and your wedding sounds like it was wonderful.
we paid for ours ourselves too, we got married over the anvil at Gretna Green, it was 10 pounds!!